...if I'm considering coming out?

Coming out is a unique experience from person to person. It can be the process of sharing one’s sexuality and/or gender identity with others (to come out to friends and family). It can also be the process by which one comes to accept one’s own sexuality and/or gender identity (to come out to yourself).

Coming out can be a lifelong process as folks negotiate when and/or how to come out in different contexts with different people (e.g. your classmate, your coach on a new sports team, your friends in a religious group). One’s reasons for coming out vary, and not everyone can emotionally, physically, financially, and/or spiritually afford to do so.

A few questions to consider about coming out may include: What does coming out look like for me? Why is it important to me, if at all? What am I excited about? What are my concerns? Why now? Are there any potential risks? Are there supports that I might need?

To be respectful of someone’s desire not be out, or to be out differently in different contexts, mirror the language they use to describe themselves in that space and avoid disclosing information about their gender and/or sexual identity.

If you are considering what coming out might mean to you, we invite you to reach out to us, schedule a Qoffee with a QuIntern, visit our resources page, or consider making use of one or more of the services below.

Support Groups and Counseling for BGLTQ Students:

Support Group for Trans Students


1st and 3rd Thursdays from 5:30 – 6:30PM,
9/19, 10/3, 10/17, 11/7, 11/21, 12/5
September 19th-December 5th 2019

This is a confidential support and psycho-education group for undergraduate and graduate students who identify as transgender, gender queer, non-binary, gender non-conforming, or questioning. This group provides a safe and affirming space to build community, share experiences, ask questions, and gain information. Topics include social and legal aspects of gender transition, coming out during college, navigating family issues, medical interventions, physical and mental health, dating and relationships, coming out in internships/job settings, and more.

For more information please contact Brandin Dear, LICSW at bdear@huhs.harvard.edu or by calling 617-495-2042.

Women's Queer Group

Women's Queer Group
Thursdays 5-6 PM
September 17th- December 3rd

This is a confidential support group open to undergraduate and graduate LGBTQ Women interested in a safe space to discuss sexuality, relationships, family, health, academics and more.  Queer and questioning Women of Color are especially encouraged to come check things out  Interested students are invited to discuss the group in person.
Please schedule by email or phone with Marin Smith, LICSW:(msmith@huhs.harvard.edu)


Men's Queer Group

Wednesdays 4-5PM

October 7th- December 9th

The Men's Queer group with Nick McQueen, LICSW, centers on connection and community for non-heterosexual male identified students at Harvard. This group is intended to foster acceptance of self and others, find and express appreciation for our queerness, and offer a sense of belonging in our community. As the leader, I hope to co-create a group with you that you look forward to and feel part of. This psychoeducational group is intended to provide members with support, affirmation and interpersonal learning, while also providing some skills and strategies to enhance well-being.  Limited to 10 members.

For more information email Nic McQueen @ nmcqueen@huhs.harvard.edu

Contact Peer Counseling

Contact Peer Counseling

Contact provides non-judgmental, non-directive, confidential peer counseling for Harvard undergraduates. Members are trained to handle a wide variety of issues and specialize in issues of sex, sexuality, sexual orientation, gender, and relationships.

*Note* While drop in and call in hours are unavailable during the Fall 2020 semester, Contact has create a Resource Binder which provides useful information about resources available to you as a Harvard College student.


Drop In: Every Night 8-11pm in Thayer Basement B-04
Call In: 8pm-8am at 617-998-6898
Email: harvardcontact@gmail.com
Learn more: https://www.facebook.com/ContactPeerCounseling


Everyone is welcome in our fully accessible office space! We are located in the Lower Level of Grays Hall, through the rear entrance (facing Wigglesworth). If you have any concerns about accessibility, please reach out to us at BGLTQ@fas.harvard.edu.